As I decided to spend my last weekend off planning the rest of my life, two numbers hit me hard: 230 and 60,000. These numbers are not the most positive numbers for me to talk about. I made a decision that I was going to be honest about my life and challenges, in the hopes that someone can learn something from our experience. So here it goes, in all its detail.
The last ten days of the year I am using to plan what the next year is going to be about. Some things included on this planning is getting real about where we are, where we want to go and how are we going to get there. This is true for us as a family, as people with outside interests and as humans walking the earth. This is a big challenge. Every year, we make sure we add one or more experiences we’ve never had before. Some of these experiences are small, like our first NBA game or our first MLB game. Some of them are educational, like this year’s trip to NASA. Others are bigger, like my desire to celebrate my 50th birthday running the Ironman. That is still a few years away. In order to make it, there are other things that need to be accomplished.
That is where the first number comes in. I am 5’4″ and I am at this particular point in time 230 pounds. This is really bad. Even when I had gallbladder surgery I was 221. I had actually dropped some weight mid-year. And then I could not control myself in a way that I was happy with and here we are. This is completely my responsibility, and at this time, I need to remind myself that loving myself does not mean eating whatever I want. The process is long and systems are being created. I will not be this weight by this time next year.
There are many things we would like to do this coming year, including a trip out-of-state. And yet, to me, the most important thing is to cut my debt in half. The second number must be plugged into this paragraph. As a family, we are $60,000 in debt. The good news is that half of that is loans that once we pay them off, we will not see again. You might be thinking…”Why are you saying this in public?” The truth is that we are not keeping up with the Joneses. Our debts have more to do with college loans, a car and my surgery, which went on credit cards. The reason why I am saying it is because I am tired of watching people go into debt for showing a lifestyle that they cannot afford, while the rest of us are deep into debt over trying to survive. It should not be this way.
Now, I am not interested in dispensing money advice, that is not my strength. There are plenty of good resources for you to learn. I can tell you that I plan to see half of that number gone by this time next year. Just like my current weight, it has to go. There is no place in my life for it.
So what are the things that make you pause right now? Do you have a plan to make it better? Leave your comment below.