This weekend I saw a little drama unfold that told the story of how we view competition in this country.  A company made an Instagram post where they were obviously poking fun (and not in a good way) at another company in their same market.

Here’s the thing:  there are two ways to look at competition.  You can get to the top by being cooperative, complementary and an all around good person.  Or, you can be a ball busting, irresponsible, win at all cost (even if that means cheating) person who is disliked by many.

I always use the example of real estate agents I knew a while back.  These two were competing in the same territory.  They could have used ugly tactics to beat each other.  Instead, they worked together. When one went on vacation, the other  would keep an eye on the properties and if a deal was made, they held it until the vacation was over so that the rightful agent would get their commission.  They did not even belong to the same agency.  One of them was completely independent and the other one was not.  The thing is, they had each other’s back and they never stole the other’s clients.  Their clients were loyal because they saw how they behaved and they both flourished and made lots of money.

Now let me give you an example of the other kind.  I used to work for a company that made window coverings and they had one “client” who was famous for opening a shop, selling a lower grade imitation of the product and when they started getting complaints, they would close the shop.  Months later they would open another shop.  The entire time, these people would bad mouth the company I worked for and when they company was no longer number one, tried to take it down.  Their product was always inferior quality and their customers would always come back to us to solve their problems.  Who is the real winner in that situation?

Below, I give you a little insight on what I think about this but I want to hear yours.  How do you see competition?  Do you know who your competition is and how they play the game?  Leave your comments below and thanks for watching, and reading.

Love Yourself

It is often said that if you don’t love yourself, you cannot love anybody else.  Ironically, I am writing this as I listened to Welcome to the Pleasuredome anthem used in the move Toys, when the toys fight the mean General who is trying to take over the toy factory.

Why?  Because I am upset and I am competitive and this song reminds me that I am a winner.  YEs, I have to admit that I am very competitive.  That is one of the things I love and hate most about myself.  There is no way that I am going to let any person beat me at something if I consider it a challenge.

I give you an example.  I used to work at a store selling mattresses and they brought back their master bed seller.  I was not selling much, according to them.  Of course, if anyone had bothered to tell me how many beds to sell before they brought her in, I probably would have done much better.  But, things being the way they were, I found out what I was supposed to be doing two weeks before she came back to work.

I like this lady a lot.  She is funny, smart and very competitive.  So, to make it interesting, we made a bet to see who would sell the most beds for a particular event.  And let’s just say that I enjoyed my crab cake from Joe’s Crab Shack very much (if you know me, you know I love crab cakes, and the winner picked the restaurant).  Nothing taste better than free food.

Now, I find myself having a different kind of competition.  One that I am not willing to talk about just yet.  The only thing that I will say is that there is a big difference between being nice and being run over and I do not like the idea of being run over.  So I am not.

So what does that have to do with loving yourself? you might be asking.  There is a school of thought that says that competitive people don’t love themselves enough.  I disagree.  I believe that people who like competition can be separated into two categories:  sorry losers and good losers.  The sorry losers are the ones that cannot stand losing.  In my life, if you beat me fair and square, you get my respect.  That is what makes for a good loser.  And that kind of loser has love and respect for herself and others.  The people who are bad competitors, pout and complain are the ones who don’t love themselves.  And yes, by default that means that there are good winners and bad winners.  Good winners don’t gloat.  The same people who make for bad losers are usually the same people who gloat and make a big scene when they win.  It is called insecurity and it comes from not loving yourself.

So what kind of player are you?  Leave your comments below.


Competitive marriage - the title says it all
Competitive marriage – the title says it all