Day 303: What Kind of Life are You Living?

This blog post was inspired by a conversation I had recently.  A person I know is going through some serious medical issues and as he was taken to surgery, his last thoughts were about his bills.  I am sure that in between, he thought about his family.  I believe his biggest concern was not to leave his family paying his bills.  Still, this was a wake up call for me for many reasons.  It made me wonder what kind of life are we living?

I have been very frustrated lately about the progress of certain aspects of my life.  I’m not where I want to be physically, mentally or emotionally.  My gut is the one paying the biggest consequences.  As you may know, I have a couple of medical conditions that get exacerbated with stress.  So this week, the conditions have decided to give me hell to pay.  Add to that the fact that sometimes, when you are feeling a little low, you like to eat some things that might not be the best food choices.  You have the recipe for the week of pain.

When I had this conversation about death and bills, it suddenly dawned on me that some things are too important in life to wait for them to get fixed on their own.  I decided my health comes first.  I don’t know how I am going to pull this off, I need some time to get healthy again and to meditate and do yoga.  Those have always been great ways to relieve stress and get back to the swing of things.

That made me ask the question:  what kind of life are you living?  I am not expecting you to be happy 100% of the time.  What I am expecting is for you to live a life where health and life is a priority.  We don’t live to work, we work to enjoy life.  If you are in a spot where you feel like all you do is pay the bills and that is the reason why you can’t take a leave of absence, it is time to change your ways.  Life is meant to be enjoyed.  Hard work is necessary, and so is hard play.  Don’t let your responsibilities kill you because if they do, you are not going to pay the bills anyway.  I am having a chat with some people today.  If you are feeling like my friend or like me, change is necessary.  Do what is right for you.

Day 135: Spring Cleaning My Life

I had an interesting incident recently that inspired me this morning.  I read an article online about spring cleaning your social media.  The gentleman was talking about cleaning your profiles, revamping your descriptions, changing your images and getting rid of those who never comment, never post anything or are always negative.  The idea is that you get rid of the old to make space for the new.

I am adapting this idea to spring cleaning my life.  There are so many projects that are half-baked in my life.  I think making space for that is leaving me no space for the goodies ahead.  So today, I start this process, because the good thing about a resolution is that you can create it and start it whenever you want.

My first order of business is to move away from the victims.  I don’t mean the person that has the occasional break down, we all have those.  I’m talking about the whiners.  Have you ever noticed those in your life?   They are not nice people and they can’t hide it.  Eventually, their mean streak comes out.  They are those people in your life that never have something good to share.  They complain about their lives, they cannot be happy for you and they attack you when you least expect them to.  Delete them.

The second thing is those projects you have around your home and office.  Take a good look at each and every single one of them.  If you think you can get the project going in the next week, keep it.  If you think it would be fun for later, get rid of it.  If you decide to go back to it later, then you will come up with better options then.

The third step is your bills.  Figure out exactly what and who you owe money to.  This is not only your credit cards.  This include any medical bills, house bills, car bills, everything that can be a money drain.  Start from the highest APR or the lowest amount, do what works for you.  Make a list and a plan to pay them off and get going on it.

The last one is going to be you.  This one is the most challenging and fun of all.  What do you like about yourself?  What do you want to keep?  What kind of things do you do that you can either do without or work to improve?  Get to work.

For me, I am starting with the millions of emails and mailing lists I belong to.  I don’t need half of them.  I am deleting those.  Then I will work on some projects and if I cannot move them forward between today and tomorrow, I will get rid of them.

It so happens I already started the list of bills.  I’m only missing the medical bills and I will have a great picture of what to work on.  The last item is what I want to work on myself.  I have this bad habit of not trusting my first instinct.  I don’t believe in first impressions.  I do believe in something that is more of a vibe.  Has this ever happened to you?  You meet a person, you don’t know if you should like them or not.  They do not have your principles or morals.  You decide to give them the benefit of the doubt, even though there is something fishy about them.  They do something to you.  There is your proof.  Then you spend a while trying to figure out why you did not trust your gut from the beginning.

The other thing I need to change is to go back to being fun-loving, care free and not taking life so seriously.  This one is going to take a lot more effort.

So what are you working on to spring clean your life?  Leave a comment below and don’t forget to share.