Permission to Procrastinate

I am asking you today to give yourself permission to procrastinate.

I can see most of you thinking that I have lost my mind.

I have not. What I want you to do is take half an hour off and sit down with a pad of paper. Stop doing all the “important” things you do normally. Now, with pad and pen start writing down everything that you are supposed to do. If you are one of my AviddivA’s, a woman over 40, you should have a pretty long list. Don’t leave anything out. Include even the silliest thing, like cooking meals, buying lunch, exercising, taking care of X and Y. Write down everything you are supposed to do this week. The list can be as long or as short as you want to make it. I will tell you that things work better when you put your heart in it and do things 100%. This will help you if you give yourself the best effort possible. OK, are you done? Did you write everything? Great, now let’s do the second step.

Take that piece of paper, and rip it in half. Take those two halves and rip them again. I want you to keep ripping until the paper no longer exists. There is something happening so don’t question it, just do it.

Now take another piece of paper and write down how you feel? If you did this exercise honestly and from the heart, you will feel a little lighter. Some people feel really great, some cry and some don’t get it at first. After about an hour they start getting it. The point of this exercise is simple: the world is not going to stop if you don’t do something or if you accomplish everything in your list. Surprise!

The question now is, where do you go from here? Do you want to procrastinate for the rest of your life? Do you want to start fresh? The thing is, you can start fresh every day. First thing is that after this exercise, you dumped your list on a piece of paper that no longer exists. So now, choose those things that you really want to do and concentrate on those.

You want more tips on how to deal with your procrastination? Click here and get to work. We will give you a free resource to start looking at what is going on and how to change it. If you want to say something, add your comment to the section below. Above all, do something to move forward.

Don’t Leave it for Later

Another week went by and this are the highlights:

1) Worked out a few times, getting my muscles stronger
2) I have been able to eat two-three servings of fruit and two-three servings of veggies every day.
3) I have successfully posted every Monday, Wednesday and Friday for the last two weeks.
4) I learned to make a sign on for my web page and mail out the e-book.
5) I edited and converted the e-book to pdf for easy sending to all interested.
6) I learned to do recommendations on linkenin.com
7) I posted all interesting information on my Facebook Fan Page and it is now working again. 8) I attended some really good teleconferences, full of great information and ideas.
9) I look great and I feel wonderful.
10) I thank my Source every day for all the goodies in my life.

There are some surprises for next week. Keep checking the blog for more information.
Have a great Father’s Day weekend.

Reason 5 to Have a Mentor

The value of the lessons can be used in several areas of your life.

It really does not matter why you have a mentor. The value of the lessons and the relationship is more important than your reason for searching for one. Think about that for a second. You have a mentor and he notices that you are quick to quit a project when it gets too hard. Through his mentor-ship you develop some strategies to keep you focused and stay on track to achieve your goals. You use those same strategies at home with the kids or at the gym to stay in shape. The value of the lesson transcends the field where it was given.

Have you learned something lately at work that you can use in your personal life or viceversa? Tell us about it in the Comments below.

Reason 4 to Have a Mentor

A mentor can introduce you to others in your field or industry.

The power of a good mentor is not only in his knowledge or ability. A good mentor will introduce you to others in the field. She will get to know you intimately and find others that are akin to your interests. This person will not be intimidated or diminished by others. She will not feel jealousy or rejection. If you are good at what you do and a good person, she will have no trouble including you in her circle.

This is a big deal. If you know someone who will be good for your mentor, you should connect them too. There is nothing better than a reciprocal relationship. Do your part and help your mentor as well.

Have you ever met someone thanks to a mentor? Have you introduced your mentor to someone else? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Reason 3 to Have a Mentor

A mentor can help you create, define and curtail your ideas.

Every project I take on, I have a couple of mentors I ask questions to. The reason is simple, my brain goes a little too fast and sometimes I get my ideas confused or worse, half baked. The greatness of my mentors is that they can help bring those ideas out, come up with more ideas, help me express my thoughts better and eliminate the ideas depending on the audience.

A good mentor will ask questions and probe deeper. This is really good when you are brainstorming ideas on a project. You might think you know it all and you might very well be an expert in an area. There are still more ideas to search. Use your mentor to find them. Don’t forget, two heads are better than one.

Share your thoughts below…or your ideas.

Reason 2 to Have a Mentor

The second reason to have a mentor is that a mentor can give you a different perspective.

I don’t know about you, I have been in some situations in life when I have needed my mentors to give me their advice. Once I tell them my story, 90% of the time they see it completely different than the way I see it. Why is that important? For two reasons:

Reason 1: If they see it differently, maybe the other person in the situation sees it differently too.

Reason 2: Their perspective can open your eyes to other possibilities.

By having someone in your corner with more experience, you will benefit from their different perspective in many ways. This could mean the difference between grasping a great opportunity or making a big mistake.

They also have the benefit of detachment. You might be too involved in the situation to see what an unbiased person might see. How many times have you written something and checked for spelling without finding a mistake? The next person comes along and finds a word misspelled as soon as they look at your paper. This is true with every project we tackle. We need a little perspective.

Tell me if this has ever happened to you. Have you had the benefit of a mentor to lead you? Share your comments below.

Reason 1 to Have a Mentor

For the next five posts, I will be revealing my reasons to have a mentor. The first one is the most obvious: a good mentor can teach you how it is done.

We can all benefit from the teachings of a good mentor. I don’t care if you want to shed pounds, improve your golf swing or increase sales in your company. A good mentor can teach you the ropes. Think about it, why try to invent the wheel when someone is already driving a car? A mentor is a person that can help you be better at something. A good mentor will check what you are doing and give you pointers on how to do it better. They might even volunteer their own strategies.

What do you think? Do you have a mentor? Do you know someone that can mentor you in any area of your life? Share your comments below.

Why Should YOU be a part of PROCRASTINATION MADNESS

Really simple.  We will only accept ten people in this coaching program….count them, 10.  If you are feeling low on the accomplishment scale, if you are doing ok and you feel you could improve, or if you are just tired of hearing everyone calling you lazy or unmotivated, write us a note below.

The reason why I am asking you to do it here is because I want you to accept responsibility and be a part of the new AviddivA.

The instructions are simple:  500 words or less, comment below, why should you be one of the TEN and what are you willing to do for this.  Keep in mind, it is not free, and it is definitely not going to be easy.  Once you are a coaching client, you have to do the work in order to succeed.  I can help you figure out where you are going wrong.  I am not doing the work for you.  Ready?  Then leave me your story below.

Answering Tom Terwilliger – Part 7

Isn’t it ironic that on the last of the 7 steps, Tom uses one of my favorite movies as a demonstration. The movie, West Side Story. The step to take now is Action.

The reason that for me it is ironic is because one year ago, I started posting a video from that movie in the website, on the Facebook Fan Page and everywhere else that my friends would see it. The video was the song: I like to Live in America. The video was my motivation every time I felt like moving back here was a bad idea. To this day, every time I feel a little overwhelmed by my current circumstances, I play it again.

So now, it has come to the point of taking action, using all the tools that I developed so far and making something of it. That is what I am doing, and on June 10, 2010, I will be revealing the new face of AviddivA. I hope you will come with me to celebrate and to start a new phase. Until then, here is Tom’s video. Don’t forget to leave your comments in the section below. Thanks.

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COMING SOON!!!

For those of you who want to read the blog, go HERE.

SPECIAL ANOUNCEMENT!!! THE LAUNCH OF THE NEW AVIDDIVA SITE WILL BE ON JUNE 10TH, 2010. GET READY FOR LOTS MORE INFORMATION, FREEBIES, PRODUCTS, SERVICES AND A WHOLE NEW LOOK.

STAY TUNED.

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