Every Day a Tragedy

I don’t want to use my page to talk about bad news. Just thinking of the title of this post was painful. I want to bring happiness and hope to the millions of people who are like me, middle aged, without a job and/or looking for meaning in their lives.

Yesterday was the straw that broke the camel’s back. It feels like every day a tragedy strikes. In the last six weeks we’ve had three hurricanes in the US and one in India, an earthquake in Mexico and now a mass shooting in Las Vegas. It feels like every time we start to recuperate from one thing, another thing happens. What are we supposed to do?

I live with anxiety and depression and all I wanted was to go back to sleep and wake up in a couple of weeks. I don’t take medication and times like this can make it a lot harder to move on. It is definitely not the time to try something new. I’m not even hungry and if you know me, you know that is strange.

Because I am not on medication, I usually can tell when things are getting overwhelming. This is different. When the things that trigger you are mostly natural disasters, you have very little warning. The great thing is that self study here is very important. I had said during the weekend that it was time to move forward, even though I still don’t know where half of my friends and family are (in Puerto Rico). When Vegas happened and I realized I had friends there, I went back to square one and then, this morning, I remembered we are in October.

October is my favorite month, it is a prelude to my birth month. Halloween is one of my favorite days of the year because it starts the 21 day countdown to my birthday. I had planned certain things for my business and my life in this month and I decided after taking a deep breath, that I was going to start Tuesday with a clean slate.

That is my message to you. It is OK to mourn and feel overwhelmed. At some point, and only you know when it is right, you have to take a deep breath, start again and keep it moving. There is going to be a tragedy every day for someone. Just don’t stay there and make it worse for yourself.

I hope this message brings you some relief.

Let me know how do you deal with situations like this in the comments section below.

Pray and/or donate for Puerto Rico

Too Many Ideas

Many people spend their days feeling like they are not creative. Others are paralyzed with too many ideas. Those are the choices. They stop you from moving forward. What do you do? It is time for making some decisions.

This particular situation is happening to me right now. I was given a really clear directive:  “you will concentrate on

  1. the move
  2. your mom
  3. your blog”

I am supposed to concentrate on those three things and nothing more for the next few months. Meanwhile, the creditors are calling, the stuff we are selling online needs promoting and in a nutshell, we need to get more money in. Add to that the saga that has been this last month with hurricanes attacking Florida and Puerto Rico (where we live and our families live, not counting that some just moved to Texas and fortunately did not suffer with their own hurricane). Add the normal duties of a stay at home parent, a puppy parent and just health and personal issues and it begs the question, how can I concentrate?

It is not easy. I told you from the beginning, I was going to be bluntly honest. We’ve talked about fear, we have talked about big dreams. We have not talked about ideas.

There are some ways that the average person deals with ideas. Some write them all down and then pick the one you are going to work on. Others just do whatever comes to mind first. Others are organized so amazingly that they seem to get everything done. But do they really?

What is my system going to be? I am going to take bits and pieces of things I have done before and add to them some new stuff.

Step 1: Sit with an empty paper and write on it every single idea that comes to mind.

Step 2: Pick one idea that is not only important but something that I would love to do.

Step 3: Organize and deploy that first idea.

Step 4: Go back to step 1 or , if you have some really cool ideas on that piece of paper, move to the next item that calls you on the list.

Some decisions are really important. Do I keep doing that side business I’ve all but abandoned. Do I spend what little money I have on the other website. Do I start writing that book I wanted to publish.

This is the face I make when I have to pick one.
Who me? Concentrate?

It is time that I start organizing my efforts and show the world what I can do. Are you ready? Any ideas?  Share them down below.

Absolute Fear of Middle Age

I personally think one of the topics that is least discussed when starting a new business, is the issue of fear. More importantly, we rarely hear about the absolute fear of middle age start ups.

I understand. I doubt there is a lot of statistics on starting a business in your 50s. A quick search in Google encountered no articles about the fear but plenty of articles suggesting the same thing I have said on previous blog posts.  Most people who find themselves unemployed at 50 find it easier to start their own business than to find an actual job.

However, I have made a promise to tell you everything that is going on, I have to admit that I am terrified. I am a 50 year old woman starting a business and although I love what I am starting to do, I can’t help but feel that I am doing everything wrong.

It will take a while for me to figure it all out. I am in no hurry. I have a stomach that is both terrified and exhilarated and hopefully, this is just the beginning. I will keep you informed of when this goes away and how I made that happen. I will definitely keep you posted.