Love Yourself

It is often said that if you don’t love yourself, you cannot love anybody else.  Ironically, I am writing this as I listened to Welcome to the Pleasuredome anthem used in the move Toys, when the toys fight the mean General who is trying to take over the toy factory.

Why?  Because I am upset and I am competitive and this song reminds me that I am a winner.  YEs, I have to admit that I am very competitive.  That is one of the things I love and hate most about myself.  There is no way that I am going to let any person beat me at something if I consider it a challenge.

I give you an example.  I used to work at a store selling mattresses and they brought back their master bed seller.  I was not selling much, according to them.  Of course, if anyone had bothered to tell me how many beds to sell before they brought her in, I probably would have done much better.  But, things being the way they were, I found out what I was supposed to be doing two weeks before she came back to work.

I like this lady a lot.  She is funny, smart and very competitive.  So, to make it interesting, we made a bet to see who would sell the most beds for a particular event.  And let’s just say that I enjoyed my crab cake from Joe’s Crab Shack very much (if you know me, you know I love crab cakes, and the winner picked the restaurant).  Nothing taste better than free food.

Now, I find myself having a different kind of competition.  One that I am not willing to talk about just yet.  The only thing that I will say is that there is a big difference between being nice and being run over and I do not like the idea of being run over.  So I am not.

So what does that have to do with loving yourself? you might be asking.  There is a school of thought that says that competitive people don’t love themselves enough.  I disagree.  I believe that people who like competition can be separated into two categories:  sorry losers and good losers.  The sorry losers are the ones that cannot stand losing.  In my life, if you beat me fair and square, you get my respect.  That is what makes for a good loser.  And that kind of loser has love and respect for herself and others.  The people who are bad competitors, pout and complain are the ones who don’t love themselves.  And yes, by default that means that there are good winners and bad winners.  Good winners don’t gloat.  The same people who make for bad losers are usually the same people who gloat and make a big scene when they win.  It is called insecurity and it comes from not loving yourself.

So what kind of player are you?  Leave your comments below.

 

Competitive marriage - the title says it all
Competitive marriage – the title says it all

 

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