As I move towards organizing my apartment and my life, I have come across the concept of what defines me. This is a very important concept because I think I am not the only one who thinks that our possessions define us. This is why people sometimes feel the need to keep up with the Joneses as it were. You must be aware that your possessions don’t define you, you define you.
You are not your things. The car you drive, the place where you live and the job you have are not what make you. What makes you is a lot more than that. The other day on Facebook somebody was talking about only your skills had any value. I disagree. If you are not a good person, your level or skill is unimportant. Why? Because you can be the best surgeon in the planet and if you don’t care for your patients, they will never heal. There is an element of the process that depends on the caring profession. If you don’t give them what they need mentally or at the level of heart, your expertise will be wasted. This is true in every profession. You can be the best chef in the planet, if there is no soul in your food, it will not be the same as your mom’s cooking on a Sunday afternoon, no matter how fancy your dish is. It will also not bring you any fulfillment, so think about it.
I, for one, have a fear of becoming a hoarder in my old age. This is why when I moved to Florida, I decided to do a little experiment. I came here with one piece of luggage and $1500. At first, my daughter and I had an apartment contract and nothing else. We lived on inflatable mattresses and we had two chairs, one bookshelf and two pans, two dishes and three cups. That was pretty much it. The first six months we did not have much, and we liked it. Now, four years later, the apartment is overflowing. So we decided to have a purchase law. No more clothes and goodies for six months. We are also getting rid of extra things. What is the purpose? To use up what we already have before shopping for more.
We are both writers. We have all these notebooks. We can’t buy any more notebooks until we use up the ones we have here. The same goes for art supplies, cameras, clothes, shoes and everything else. Don’t take me wrong; we have a sofa that needs replacing and we are lacking several pieces of furniture. The point is that we need to figure out what we really have so that then we can plan what we need.
This is part of the process of organizing, discovering what we are about, what we really need to then find a place for everything. I expect that it will take us a little while to figure it out. I hope it will help others figure it out to. Just keep in mind that your stuff does not define you. Until you figure that out, you will collect a lot of things you really don’t need. If they are in good condition, consider spreading the wealth by giving it away to those who need it.
So what does your possessions say about you? Leave your comments below.